Dear Man...

Hello readers.

This time i would like to talk about relationship between man and woman, which it is always interesting to talk about. As i believe, man and woman cant be friends, just like the classical movie named WHEN HARRY MET SALLY. I believe that either to be lovers, or enemies. Thats how man and woman is united. And this writing is deeply dedicated to all man in the world. It is a deep feeling of a woman. It is the truest emotion a woman can write in an open media. Its an open letter to all the man in the world. Here it is.

Dear man.
What is it that u are looking from a woman? When one day u saw a woman passing by, u decided to come to her. U ask her name, u compliment her. U chase her, u hunt her. At first, u saw her, she doesnt believe u. She doesnt want to open her world to u, and u keep trying for her. U make time, u give attention, u care. Because u want her. So, at that time, u want to get her trust, do u?

As the time goes by, the woman finally trusts u. She opens her world for u, allows u to step inside her life. She allows u to be involved with her. She hopes that u are true, she believes your word even there is no HONESTY MEASUREMENT in this world. She just believes in u. She hopes in u. Is that what u want, right? A trust, and u got it.

But its not enough for u, dear man. As u got her trust, the game is not interesting anymore. Your hunter blood has no more challenge. It is her, who always supports u, listens to u, being true to u, and she starts becomes boring for u. She is no longer a MUST HAVE item in your life, suddenly she is just a doormat where u step on to clean your dirt on your feet. She is no longer interesting. Her trust is no longer what u want. Because u got it. U want other thing to hunt. Other thing to chase.

Dear man.
She will see everything falling apart without even understand whats going on in your head. She will be in tears, and realize that u just take her trust and missuse it. Some of u, dear man, will just cruelly walk away, and wish her all the best to keep her scattered heart to be one again. But she will never be the same anymore. Its not easy to trust a man, its not easy to see that the trust is taken and thrown away on her face, its not easy to see all of that falling apart without reason. But what can she do? All she can do is just to collect every piece of her scattered heart and continue her life, even if its not the same anymore, right? While u, dear man, u will continue chasing a new item, a new trust, a new game.

So what do u want in this life? If any of u who ever cheated by a woman, its not fair to cheat the other innocent woman, for the sake of your pain in past. If its just u, who wants to enjoy life by selling love to all woman u met in your life, u can enjoy your life without hurting others, right. Its not fair if u want to play a game while she is being true to u. Its not fair to fight for her trust in the beginning, but then u just missuse that or even throw it on her face. If u still not sure of your feeling, pls stay away from her, dont invite her to open her heart, touch it, and just walk away. Its not fair.

Come on dear man.
U maybe just a man right now. Its easy to laugh on woman tears right now. Its easy to play with her trust, and start playing again with others. It maybe entertaining right now, to call a woman, make a date to five women at the same time. U must feel u are the most wanted man in the world. :-)

But just remember dear man.
U are maybe just a man right now. U can laugh now. Its funny to see how stupid a woman to trust u right now and u cheat her. But, u will be someday a FATHER OF A DAUGHTER. And its not funny anymore when u saw the same tears going from your daughter's eyes for the same reason when she is being cheated. U will feel broken as u wipe the tears on your daughter's face at that time. Its not funny anymore, right?

Or, even if u never be a father of a daughter tomorrow, minimum, now u are a BROTHER OF A SISTER, or A SON OF A MOTHER. There must be a woman around u, no matter what. For this reason, whatever u want to do, all the bad things, u plan for a woman, u will re consider it. Come on, u supposed to protect woman, dear man. Thus, u are created first by God. Thus, Adam is the first. Thus, woman is created after u. She was created from one of your rib. Woman is not created from your head bone, so that woman is not your leader to follow, she is not created from your feet bone, so that she is not designed to be under u. Woman is created from your rib bone, the bone near your heart. It means, woman is created to be cared, to be loved, to be protected, by u, dear man.

Please stop joking. Stop playing around. Stop chasing trust, then missuse it. Start being a gentleman who respects woman and care her trust, and appreciate her. Be with her as she trusted u. Love her and treat her right. Dont hurt others, even if it is funny to u. Because when the same reason happen to your daughter, sister, or mom, it will not be funny anymore.

Dear man. Be a good trusted man, who knows how to fight for the woman honor, and to respect it. Dont harm her after she trust u, be a good loving man for her. Love, feeling, trust, are not jokes. Because after u touch a woman heart, it will never ever be the same again. It will not...

Mysore, June 7 2014.

A woman,

Nurul Kasyfita